Movie Review On: The Kids Are Alright

Watching the much anticipated and celebrated lesbian flick The Kids Are Alright, the first thing evident was the average looking women in the film. 

It was only noticeable because I had grown accustomed to seeing very hot, very sexy, lipstick type lesbians on television. 

For example: The Real L-Word is a lesbian based series that airs seasonally on Showtime, and consists of mostly attractive females. I guess I was spoiled in thinking that all shows would keep up this trend -- but I digress.

The two actresses in the film were very plain Jane in appearance, but as you got to know the character's personalities -- little by little, you began to see the attractive qualities about them. These same qualities locked me into the film and I found myself thoroughly enjoying the film along with the great acting skills, until my enjoyment was killed due to a male counterpart that made his way into the film while ultimately, reaching his goal of sleeping with one of the moms -- and multiple times at that! 

I'm not against heterosexual sex at all, but when there aren't many lesbian flicks to begin with the last thing you want to see is a lesbian having sex with a man; it defeats the whole purpose of watching a "lesbian" film. 

In one scene, the children of the lesbian couple wanted to meet their sperm donor; this part was understandable because there's always a piece of you that desires to know who you are and where you came from. The children wanting to meet their donor gave way to the donor spending a lot of time with the family -- which resulted in a marital affair. 
 

Due to stigmas placed on the gay community, sex scenes in films are very limited. However, heterosexual sex in film is widely accepted and even more detailed; this is also true in The Kids Are Alright, where there are more heterosexual sex scenes then lesbian sex scenes.

In conclusion: the storyline and acting was great, I just wish the movie didn't make lesbians appear boring, sexless and deprived.

2011 LA

Lesbian Bridal Bliss

                        Aisha Mills and Danielle Moodie tie the knot!

Essence online magazine decided to shine light on beauty from another side of the tracks.

The first lesbian Bridal Bliss highlight! About time! Thanks Essence!

To view the brides' photos click here.

2010 LA

Fired For Being Gay Pass ENDA Now!

Kimya share her story

Dave shares his story

What are your thoughts?

Mourning LGBT Youth

Raymond Chase (seen above), was a nineteen year old sophomore that attended Johnson and Wales college in Rhode Island. 

On September 29, 2010, Raymond committed suicide by hanging himself in his dorm room. He was openly gay and while the cause of his suicide is not yet known, he is the fifth gay youth to commit suicide in the past four weeks.

September 9, 2010, Billy Lucas (seen-r), a high school student from Greensburg, Indiana, was taunted for being gay and as a result, Lucas hung himself in a barn at home where he kept his most beloved pet -- his horse. 

A memorial page for Lucas was created on Face book as a way of giving people the chance to say goodbye, but the tragic death of this young man wasn't enough as people still left homophobic and hateful comments on the wall.

To all gay youth out there with suicidal tendencies, if you're reading this right now please STOP! 

Know that you are loved and wanted and by hurting yourselves, you give the bad people all the power. Don't give them any more power than they need, because we don't need to make them stronger. 

Shame on school officials and staff members, that allowed this to happen underneath their noses. 

For those staff members with homophobic hearts, it may seem like water under the bridge and one less gay person to worry about, but what happens in the dark always comes to the light. Don't for a minute think that no one is watching your hateful actions because someone is watching you.

To those in need call: 866-488-7386. This number is the nation's leading organization for creating awareness about LGBT youth crisis and suicide prevention. They provide online support and maintain a 24 hour help line.

In remembrance of other LGBT youth who committed suicide these past weeks: Tyler Clementi of Rutgers University, teenagers Asher Brown and Seth Walsh. 

RIP

2010 LA

Woman Sues Church Over Gay Marriage Ceremonies

 
2010 LA

Adam Lambert's New CD Is HOT!

Former American Idol star Adam Lambert, has introduced his first album. 

Many people have been anticipating Lambert's album -- curious to know what it would look like. 

I had a feeling he would shock us and shock us he did! Personally, I became a fan of Lambert's as soon as he opened his mouth and extracted out what I felt was the most beautiful, powerful, and compelling voice I've heard in a long time. His image is awesome but to hear his voice mixed with his rocker dress style is a killer combination.

When Adam Lambert graced the stage of American Idol, his sexual orientation became more of a concern then his artistry, which many people felt was totally irrelevant. 

Lambert's sexual orientation became the focal point and rumors began to fly, with speculations about if he "could sell records." People commented it'd be embarrassing to walk in a store and openly purchase his album. Some even resorted to purchasing the music online out of fear.

Lambert's talent has nothing to do with his sexual orientation and once people purchase the album they'll see that what they end up with, is really great music by a really great artist.  

Have you ever picked up a CD and didn't purchase it, because you thought the artist might be gay? Of course not! No one stops to think about a person's sexual preference when you buy their product, you're only concerned about the value of the product.

If you're an Adam Lambert fan -- be a true fan. Adam is the first of many who stood up for himself as a gay man and stated, "this is me love me or hate me."

When he took that stand he took it for all gay people, and made a point that you must be who you are and love yourself. If you don't love yourself first then who will?

Great work Adam and I look forward to hearing your music for many years to come!

2009 LA

Gay In The Work Place

You've been through it before. You go for a job interview, you're hired for the position, and after being on your job for a while you make a few friends and then the personal questions begin.  

"So where do you live? Do you have any kids? I see you're wearing a ring are you married?"

When you admit to being in a relationship, you begin paying attention to how you mention your partner -- using neutral words at all times. 

Instead of saying my girl, wife, boyfriend, husband, he, or she, you might say my fiance or my spouse, this way your co-worker can't tell the sex of your partner. 

If a co-worker calls your home and your partner answers the phone, you might further camouflage your status by saying, "Oh that was my (friend, sister, or brother) that answered." It can really get ridiculous!

The gay and lesbian world of secrecy is common, due to fear that nice treatment from co-workers might end if found out. 

Even if you've known a co-worker for a few months and feel comfortable enough explaining your personal background, it's still a risk you're taking when you completely open up. 

If you've made a connection with a co-worker over a period of time and if you deem them worthy of your secrets -- which is a privilege, should they turn their back on you then they weren't genuine from the start. So you shouldn't feel bad at all, it's them that should feel bad for being prejudice.

I feel people respect you more when you're honest and I say all this to say, there is never a good time or bad time to be honest. All you can do is be real with yourself and others, and hope for the best in all situations. 

Everything happens for a reason, so should you be fired from a job for being honest about your relationship, then it probably wasn't safe for you to be in that environment anyway. 

And should you lose a friend for being honest, then they weren't a friend to begin with. It's their loss and your load was made lighter, when they made their exit from your life.

So keep your head up knowing you're a good person with a good heart, and someday, somewhere, somebody, will recognize it!

2009 LA

Anti-Gay States Should Be Boycotted?

Just a thought in light of Prop 8; it's interesting how states refuse same-sex couples equal marriage rights but have no problem with the LGBT community spending hard earned cash within the state -- while in turn helping the economy thrive. 

Contributions from the LGBT communities to America and the world are very well known, and yet LGBT people are treated like outcasts or aliens from another planet.

My resolution to combat this issue? 

LGBT individuals should move their place of residence to a state that honors marriage equality. In a sense by moving it'd be like boycotting the discriminatory states, while taking large amounts of state revenue in the process. And when state officials get their acts together only then should one reconsider moving back.

The message is clear; LGBT individuals are needed so stop acting like they aren't.

What are your thoughts on boycotting discriminatory states?

2009 LA